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In the Name of Allah, The Most Beneficent, The Most Merciful
Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds
Any kind of language coming from Him
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Assalamualaikum. Have a great day today?
Lately i got so many things to do. Deciding is a huge thing to be considered. Well it make sense.
Hmm,will talk about it.
Thinking about how to manage your daily life? Having problems,works
and everything to settle down. Or still thinking about how to make it clear. Well,you
wake up in the morning, no idea what to do for that day, open your e-mails,
check your facebook account, sleep some more, go to work,university,school, do
something to act busy, wait for the time to clock out, go home, watch TV more
and more, speak to some people on the phone, listening to the music,then sleep.
The example above is of a person who is not decisive. When
they woke up, they didn’t decide what they had to do, they didn’t decide what
their plans for the day would be, that can lead a productive life.
Emotions such as love, hope, enthusiasm, determination…etc
are strongly encouraged in the Quran and teachings of The Prophet, as they
result in a positive attitude for the Muslim at home, in public, and in
relation to the rest of the world including all other creations. The Prophet
teaches that no one's faith is complete until they love for others what they
love for themselves, which is a very positive state of mind. Love is recognized
and respected as the noblest emotion.
Decisiveness is the characteristic of a productive Muslim,because
only by making effective decisions will you be moving forward in your life. The
more you linger, and let shaytaan play with your mind, the more you’ll be
slowed down and become unproductive.
*this is the example of a great decision in your life as a muslimah.
Think. Thinking is the best way to make a decision or
to clarify something in your life. Because Islam taught so. And by thinking, it
doesn’t mean spending few minutes
staring at the ceiling waiting for a revelation to come! Or penetrating to your
phone’s screen waiting for someone to make a plan. No its not. Thinking means
brainstorming, analysing, drawing from your experience of how best to go about
a certain course of action and really taking the time to measure the
implications of your decision.
Consult. When you’ve done with the thinking part, now you’ve many
of questions… no problem, do some researches! Look around, ask around, and
consult others, bounce ideas from family, the eldest,friends. Make sure the
implications. People around you. Either its gonna affect your whole life or
just for a couple of days.
Istikharah. SubhanaAllah, Allah is so Merciful to us, He
knew that it would be hard for us to make decisions easily, so He opened a
special lines of communication for us to Him when it comes to decisions.. it’s
called Istikharah prayer! Just read this hadeeth carefully and understand its
meaning:
On the authority of Jaabir Ibn ‘Abdullah he said: “The
Prophet (peace be upon him) would instruct us to pray for guidance in all of
our concerns, just as he would teach us a chapter from the Qur’an. He would say
‘if any of you intends to undertake a matter then let him pray two
supererogatory units (two rak’ah naafilah) of prayer and after which he should
supplicate:
‘O Allaah, I seek Your counsel by Your knowledge and by Your power
I seek strength and I ask You from Your immense favour, for verily You are able
while I am not and verily You know while I do not and You are the Knower of the
unseen. O Allaah, if You know this affair -and here he mentions his need- to be
good for me in relation to my religion, my life, and end, then decree and
facilitate it for me, and bless me with it, and if You know this affair to be
ill for me towards my religion, my life, and end, then remove it from me and
remove me from it, and decree for me what is good wherever it be and make me
satisfied with such.’
You’re asking Allah, The One who knows everything about what’s
best for you… if you must belive to Allah(certainty) in your dua, do you think
Allah will make you take a “bad” decision? Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him)
said, the one does istikharah will not regret! Imagine someone saying to you,
I’ll give you a formula, if you follow it, you’ll never ever ever regret any
decision you make! Will you take up the offer? So be sure.
Action. You’ve thought about it, asked others, and
most importantly asked Allah for guidance tru an Istikharah prayer, now what? Hummm..
DECIDE! Take action! And jump into
your decision full force taking every conceivable first step you can make, so
that you can’t reverse your decision! You wanted to open a business, and taken
the above steps, NOW open it and invest your money! You want to further your
studies….now make a move,ask your parents. Musyawarah.You wanted to propose to
a particular person and you’ve done the above, pick up the phone and call her
waly now! Make the decision and act upon it quickly before shaytaan comes to
whisper in your mind and puts doubt.
Doa and Tawakkal. You’ve made the decision, taken some actions…
it’s not over yet. Make dua and have trust in Allah. You may have made the
right decision, but to follow through a decision correctly needs lots of dua,
and trust in Allah….so don’t give up! And don’t regret decisions you’ve made
after doing all the above, you only have 2 possible scenarios: either you’ve
made good decisions and things are working great, or you’ve made a decision
that challenged you which you can either learn from or you’ve learnt to
overcome!
Yes, making decisions isn’t easy, but instead of dodging
them and suffering the consequences in this life and hereafter, develop your
decision making muscle by making decisions daily using the above steps –
whether for small decisions or big decisions – just make a decision!
This is something I
recently began to practice: when I have a decision I need to make, I ask
myself, "What would Allah want me to do?"
Alhamdulillah, when I
remember that my decisions and actions will be judged by Allah subhana wa
ta’ala and taken into account on the Day of Judgement, that really helps me to
choose carefully what my decision will be.
Allah knows
best.
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